Divorce — Contested vs. Uncontested
All states allow no-fault divorce. The process and cost vary dramatically depending on whether you and your spouse agree on the major issues.
Uncontested Divorce
- Both spouses agree on all issues
- Typically faster (2–6 months)
- Lower cost ($500–$2,500)
- Less court involvement
- May be able to use online forms
- Mediation can help reach agreement
Contested Divorce
- Spouses disagree on property, custody, or support
- Often takes 1–3 years
- Attorney fees $10,000–$50,000+
- May require trial
- Judge makes final decisions
- Discovery and depositions possible
Residency requirements: Most states require 6 months–1 year of residency before filing. File in the county where you live.
Child Custody — Legal vs. Physical
Custody has two components. Courts in all states use the "best interests of the child" standard when parents cannot agree.
| Type | Definition | Common Arrangement |
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| Legal Custody | Decision-making authority (school, healthcare, religion) | Joint legal custody (both parents decide together) |
| Physical Custody | Where the child lives day to day | Primary with one parent; other has parenting time |
| Joint Physical | Child splits time significantly between both homes | 50/50 or 60/40 rotating schedule |
| Sole Custody | One parent has primary legal and physical custody | Other parent may have supervised visitation |
Factors courts consider: each parent's relationship with the child, stability of each home, child's adjustment to school/community, parent's willingness to co-parent, history of domestic violence or substance abuse.
Child Support — How It's Calculated
Every state uses a formula, but the inputs vary. Most states use either the Income Shares Model (both parents' incomes combined) or the Percentage of Income Model (non-custodial parent pays a set percentage).
Important: Child support is separate from custody. A parent cannot withhold visitation because of unpaid child support, and a parent cannot withhold support because the other is blocking visits. Both are enforced separately by the court.
- Base support typically covers housing, food, clothing, and basic expenses
- Additional expenses (medical, childcare, extracurriculars) often split proportionally
- Support can be modified if there is a substantial change in income or circumstances
- Unpaid support accrues as a legal debt — can result in wage garnishment, license suspension, or contempt
- Support generally ends at 18 or high school graduation (some states extend to 21 or college)
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Spousal Support / Alimony
Courts consider length of marriage, each spouse's earning capacity, and standard of living. Rehabilitative, permanent, and lump-sum forms exist.
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Adoption
Stepparent, foster-to-adopt, domestic, and international adoption. Birth parent rights must be terminated (voluntarily or by court order).
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Prenuptial Agreements
Legally binding contracts addressing property division if the marriage ends. Must be in writing, signed by both parties, and executed voluntarily.
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Grandparent Rights
All 50 states allow grandparents to petition for visitation. Courts apply a best-interests analysis, but intact-family cases face constitutional hurdles.
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Legal Separation
An alternative to divorce — spouses live apart with court-approved terms but remain legally married. Available in most states.
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Paternity
Establishes legal parentage via voluntary acknowledgment or DNA testing. Required for child support, custody rights, and inheritance.
Frequently Asked Questions
Can I get a divorce without a lawyer?
Yes — if your divorce is uncontested (no minor children, limited assets, both parties agree), many courts offer self-help forms and some states have online divorce portals. If you have children, significant assets, or a disagreement on any major issue, an attorney is strongly recommended to protect your rights.
Does adultery affect divorce outcomes?
In most no-fault states, adultery has little to no effect on property division or custody. A few states still consider fault, and adultery can potentially affect alimony decisions in some jurisdictions (especially if marital funds were spent on the affair). Check your state's specific laws.
Can I relocate with my child after divorce?
Typically no, not without court approval or the other parent's written consent. Most custody orders have relocation restrictions. If you want to move, you must file a relocation petition and the court weighs the child's best interests, the reason for the move, and impact on the non-moving parent's relationship with the child.
What happens if my ex doesn't pay child support?
Contact your state's child support enforcement agency (often part of the Department of Revenue or Social Services). They can garnish wages, intercept tax refunds, suspend driver's or professional licenses, report arrears to credit bureaus, and seek contempt of court charges. You can also file a private motion for contempt.
At what age can a child choose which parent to live with?
There is no magic age — the child's preference is one factor courts consider, weighed more heavily as the child matures. In Georgia, children 14+ have strong (though not absolute) preference rights. Most states don't set a specific age, but judges commonly give more weight to the preferences of teenagers 12+.
How long does divorce take?
Most states have a mandatory waiting period (30–180 days after filing). Uncontested divorces with no children often finalize in 2–6 months. Contested divorces with custody disputes routinely take 1–3 years. High-conflict cases with significant assets can take longer. Mediation and collaborative divorce can shorten timelines significantly.